It shows me that she's genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she's with." —Nate N."If the guy doesn't say something and take the check off the table to pay, it's probably fair to assume that you're going Dutch.

How do you know in situations like this when it’s ok to visit someone out of state when meeting for first time?

Dear Michelle, One of the hardest parts of giving advice is that there is no such thing as one-size-fits all advice.

Things are new and you aren't familiar with what the other likes yet. Opt for something that gives you both an easy out, like lunch or a drink.

Until you've had time to communicate about that stuff, it's impossible to weigh them against your former boyfriend of three years." —Greg B. If you guys have a great time, you're both left wanting more." —Greg G." title="" src="data:image/gif;base64, R0l GODlh AQABAIAAAAAAAP///y H5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" data-src="https://hips.hearstapps.com/cos.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/25/539fc09300903_-_cos-10-couple-playing-ping-pong-de-mscn.jpg?

resize=768:*" /"First dates are best kept quick and noncommittal for both parties—unless you've known each other for a while. Opt for something that gives you both an easy out, like lunch or a drink.

If I meet a girl and get her number, the first time we go out shouldn't be a three-hour opera and dinner afterwards. If you guys have a great time, you're both left wanting more." —Greg G."If a girl and I end up hooking up quickly, it doesn't necessarily mean I've written her off. For example, 'Hey, I've got an extra ticket to this show tonight. ' Go out and do things I'd want to do, and then invite me. Be willing to embrace the things men love." —Sam M."I get frustrated when I feel like I'm constantly the one driving the conversation—it happens to me a lot and it feels a little unfair.

"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.

I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react.

All she needs to do to maintain my interest is…be awesome. It's hard to get the sense that I'm getting to know someone when I'm tasked with doing all the talking.

On the flip side though, it's a rough night when a girl goes on about herself at length without asking me anything about myself.

I don't want to pick up a saved video game: I'm here to start new." —Orlando O."I always appreciate the offer to split the check, even though I never allow it.